What a huge secret it is to raise kids who are well behaved! Do we bribe them with chocolates and Oreos? Threaten them with punishment? Take them out for games? It could be anything, but reprimanding is not the solution. Corporeal Punishment is again another way to get the worst out of kids. Discipline is very important to link good behavior and bonding.
It is very important to instill good discipline and your criteria of ‘goodness’ should be clear with a set of expectations. Children should inculcate that as toddlers, as they always have an urge to please their parents and in doing so they follow the guidelines. But what are the criteria for good discipline and how do you categorize some children as well-behaved?
Why should you make your kid well-behaved?
- If your kids are well-behaved, they will learn to respect others.
- Well-behaved kids listen to what others have to say.
- Well-behaved kids grow up to be better persons.
- You will not face any troubles or complaints from well-behaved kids at school.
Secrets of Raising Well-Behaved Kids
Here are all the top secrets for raising well-behaved kids.
Raise and Praise should go together
Children should always be appreciated for their good behavior. Children want to please their parents, so they will doing things to get the praise, and that praise becomes priceless. They may help you, speak politely, or show good behavior.
You have to acknowledge that and thank them specifically for behaving that way. Children will inculcate that naturally and it also develops a strong bond with each other.
Rules and Respect go Hand in Hand
There should be some set of rules that kids need to know for good behavior. It could be respecting elders, brushing teeth twice in a day, sharing toys and goodies, or any other activity that enhances positive discipline.
It has to be decided by the parents and make sure that there is mutual respect to follow the rules. Kids learn by watching so parents should set examples by following their own guidelines.
Children should be enlightened with a reason or logic for some discipline
Kids are inquisitive by nature and they want to have all the answers. Though it is not mandatory that parents should remain answerable to their kids but certain logical answers can make the kids realize the importance of discipline.
It could be very simple like settling their toys and keeping it aside in a box which would make it easy for them to find it at the same place the next day.
Develop conscience in Kids
Punishing and reprimanding is bad but again kids should be given ample time to realize their mistakes and be guilty at least for the wrong they have done. They should learn to apologize and realize their own mistake and parents should make them understand that mistakes are stepping stones to learn greater lessons.
As adults, we often say that our conscience rocked us while doing wrong, this feeling should be instilled in kids from a young age. Apart from that, they will also be physically active when you have pets at home.
Be a Role Model
Kids consider parents as superheroes who have the best qualities. They look up to you with great respect and pride. They have a sense of feeling that ‘my parents are better than yours’. The day they stop viewing you like one, they start to look for other role models who may be completely indictable.
You should remain a role model in your eyes so that they don’t drift away from you and look for other footsteps. If u want your kid to be well behaved, then naturally you have to do the same.
Kids develop love and trust with the promises that you keep. They will respect you for keeping that and will not let you down. If you have promised for a nice walk after storytime, you should keep that as it boosts them and develops a strong sense of bonding and respect for you.
Maintain a Sense of Humour
Having a good time with the kids by laughing and sharing jokes and conversations grasps their attention and trains them to help you out with chores in a light-hearted manner. You can also teach them a lot of activities and lessons with funny demonstrations and this in return acts as a surprising element to raise well behaved and happy kids.
Children should know what is Empathy
The primary goal is to teach your child to read body language and give a reaction. You have to give them pointers like how delighted a person could be when u share something. Children don’t like instructions but they like demonstrations so let them see it how bad you feel when your kid doesn’t let you touch his favorite toy.
Appreciate your child when you see them feeding a toy or sharing a blanket with another one. This is the milestone of empathy and good behavior.
Let your child develop cognitive skills. Instead of giving a ready-made solution, let them find their own answer with independence. They should develop the confidence to accept failure and retry and you as a parent need to accept their choice of decisions and give importance to their version of the solution.
They will develop problem-solving skills and won’t come to you with hurt, agitated, and disturbed. Positive Emotions will prepare them for good behavior.
Be firm about whining
Your child may be adamant and stubborn to get his work done. They may adopt different ways to gain your acceptance so you need to decide on your verdict. Whining should not change your decision, ‘No’ should be ‘No’ in any case and you should be sure of it and not get yourself trapped in love.
Here are Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) which helps you to get more detail about Raising Kids
What is the activity that should be avoided while raising an agitated kid?
A child should not be nagged and scolded for one mistake again and again. If a kid is agitated by nature, then you should at least give one chance to cooperate. School them, teach them, and then move on. They should not be reminded of the same mistake again and again.
What age kids ask a lot of questions?
Kids between ages 2 to 5 are inquisitive by nature as they are stepping into the world to explore, appreciate, and question.
How can you develop a great relationship with your child?
The primary mantra is to spend time together. No matter how busy your schedule is, try and take some time out for your child. You need to keep aside all electronic devices and dedicate some time to play along and talk to your kids.
Parents often threaten their children to teach them discipline and good behavior. But ‘threat’ is a bad trait, so that should be avoided as children learn it from you. You can be good and friendly with your children but not friends, as they need to respect you and the relationship to nurture and maintain it.
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Mother of Two children. I’m a former teacher with a background in child development and a passion for Good parenting. I understand child development and know how to develop activities to help children learn and grow. Spare time, I enjoy spending time with my family, reading, and volunteering in my community.