50 Things You Should Say To Your Kids

Being a parent, it is essential to keep in mind that motivating the child happens to be a necessary part of nurturing him/her or her.

True inspiration and motivation can lead a child towards healthier and more intellectual progress that cannot be anticipated if the parents are not observant enough. Each day the parents tell their children endless things that offer mixed feelings towards the child.

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Things to say to kids right now

Here is a list of the 50 amazing things that you should say to your kids now!

To be a better parent to you, what more can I do? Ask the child

The child has certain expectations from you as a parent, and in most cases, that expectation should be met. So you need to ask the child what more you can do for him/her or her. He/she or she is the best person to offer you an honest answer.

Motivate your child by saying that you are proud of him

You need to make your child aware of how much his/her positive works make you proud, and there is no better way to express it rather than to say that to the child. He/she can feel the inspiration to go forward with his/her endeavors as a result.

Ask the child if he/she wants to start over after an initial failure

There are times when failures strike down the continuous success story of your child, be it in educational fields or anywhere else. Such shortcomings can demotivate the children. So you need to show that you still have many ways to shine up again, which is why this is something you can ask him.

Assure your child that He/she can feel in a certain way

It is better not to directly use didactic words to make your child realize that they should not be too harsh in the event of being angry or sad, or frustrated. Rather assure him/her that such feelings are not objectionable. However, they need to be polite.

Ask your child to share with you more

There are things that children often hide from their parents, and that turns into psychological problems later in their lives. So it is better to let them talk with you. Ask them to share with you more so that they can find the comfort zone in sharing with you and telling you all their problems.

Don’t forget to apologize

It is not wrong to apologize to your child if you realize that you have behaved harshly with him/her. There is no shame in asking, “will you forgive me?” This will remove the unnecessary fear and trauma created in your child’s mind because of your rudeness.

Ask your child his/her opinion about specific problems

It is always advisable to ask your child their views regarding particular issues rather than spoon-feeding the solutions to them. As you ask, “what is your opinion about this matter?” You will be stunned to find the innovative solutions they can come up with.

Say to your child that you care about him

It may seem awkward for some to suddenly say to his/her child that he/she cares for him/her but sometimes sharing that feeling is essential. It makes the bonding with the child much stronger.

Ask the child what kind of challenge he/she would prefer to take on

Rather than pushing your child towards different challenging competitions or tests, it is better to ask him/her what kind of challenge he/she would prefer. This offers a sense of choice and also understanding with you. It is most important.

Approach your child if he/she would be interested in talking about any particular matter

It is essential to respect your child’s privacy, even if it is sometimes essential to earn about specific trauma or event. So ask him/her if he/she likes to talk about it. This is more of a queue to realize that you are interested in that matter.

Ask the opinion of your child about specific problem-solving activities

All his/her life, your child will face the challenges of problem-solving in one way or the other, and for that, he/she better be ready from a very young age. To make him/her realize that his/her opinions matter the most, here ask him/her his/her opinion is about specific problems and how he/she intends to solve them.

Exclaim in joy if he/she comes up with some unconventional solutions

There are times when children come up with unique ideas and solutions. When you come to know about such a solution taken by your child, do ask him/her, “how did you come up with such a perfect solution?” This will surely put a smile on his/her face, and he/she will start explaining his/her logic.

Express your confidence in your child

After several attempts, if your child succeeds in a particular matter, then do not forget to tell him/her that you knew he/she could do it. This will offer him/her the idea that his/her parents have faith in him/her, which is essential.

Appreciate it if your child makes a good point

While you are having a conversation with your child and you can see signs of intellectual maturity in him/her as he/she makes the points in his/her argument, then do not forget to mention “good point!”

This will show him/her that you are observing and appreciating his/her new ideas.

Ask your child to teach you

Be it a new mobile phone or new software that you do not know how to operate, and you can always ask your child to teach you about that matter. Simply ask him/her, “can you please teach me how to…?” and your child will be more than happy to do so. This will give the confidence to him/her that the adults also have things to learn from them.

Appreciate their thoughtful steps

Be it making a father’s day card or cleaning up their room if the maid is not present. There are things that children do impromptu. When you find that out, do not forget to tell them, “this is very thoughtful of you.”

Remind your children

Children have tendencies to be destructed from their targets, be it studying hard or doing good in sports, etc., so from time to time, you need to remind him/her, “you are in the process of learning…” this will work as a reminder of their journey.

Ask explanations if he/she has done any wrongful act

Do not shy away from asking answers from your child if he/she has done anything wrong. Ask politely, “can you please tell me why you did…” Before coming to a decision, you will be able to understand the logic behind his/her wrongdoing.

Given the option to your child to do certain things his/her way

The processes chosen by your child are not always correct. But they should realize that. Therefore if they insist upon specific solutions or initiatives, you can tell them, “ok, let’s do it your way.”

“I have seen you trying hard….”

Even when your child has failed in any venture, do not let him/her feel sorry. Reinforce his/her faith in himself by saying that you have seen him/her working hard and you know that he/she has done his/her best.

Say to your child that you believe in him

When your children are going through a tough time, then tell him/her directly that you believe in him. This will make him/her aware of your faith over him. In progressing towards success, such faith is vital at every step.

Assure him/her that he/she is a member of the family

Remind your child from time to time that he/she is a member of the family, and so he/she should abide by the values that the family has.

Reassure your child that he/she is accepted the way he/she is

Reassure your child that no matter what fault or shortcomings he/she has, he/she is by heart and soul acceptable to you. This will make him/her self-confident and secure. In progress towards the right path, such a sense of surety is most essential.

Praise good questions by your child

There are times when your child asks very interesting and thought-provoking questions, and at that moment, do not forget to acknowledge that. Don’t feel shy to say that “this is an excellent question that you have asked!” Such appreciation will encourage the spirit of learning in your child.

Express your excitement in partnering with your child

Express your feeling of excitement when you are getting engaged in certain partnership undertakings with your child, be it in any household project or an excursion. Tell him/her “I feel very excited as I do this with you.”

Do not shy away from admitting that you are wrong

When your child offers you a suggestion that you refuse to accept and eventually that suggestion is proven to be correct, then do tell him/her that “you were right.” Such admission in the event of your wrong decision will make your child respect you for that.

Assure about the importance of your child’s opinion

Directly share this fact with your child that “your opinion is very important to us.” This is a kind of reassuring that you will be offered to him/her regarding his/her say in the family or in any matter.

Openly express your love to your child

The unconditional love that you have for your child should be shared with him. Directly say that “I love you the way you are.” This increases the bonding that you have with your child.

Share your openness to listen to him/her

When your child is interested in telling you about some matter, then do not shy away. Tell him/her that you are ready to listen to him. Then it will be easier for him/her to share with you about all the things he/she wants to. He/she will share it to his/her heart’s content.

Tell him/her that he/she should make the decision

Tell your child “you decide” when he/she is insisting on some steps. The decision can be right or wrong, but you need to let him/her have that decision-making skill. For that, he/she needs to have the option to make the decision.

Assure your child that He/she can do it

When your child is in a very struggling phase, be it in the process of learning anything new or facing any serious challenge, then tell him/her that you are sure that He/she can do it. This will offer a lot of encouragement for him/her in being successful.

Emphasize the fact that your child is working hard

Simply ask your child, “what have you done with all those hard works today?” This will make your child aware that you acknowledge the labor and hard work he/she is putting into learning.

Ask him/her about the school

Ask your child about his/her school and what exciting things happened there that very day. He/she will be more than happy to share these matters with you. Anything that has occurred with much importance should be paid importance to as he/she is not always in the position to understand the gravity of the matters.

Accept that you were not paying attention

There are times when your child wants to share with you about some matter, but you are not paying attention. In such a case, you need to apologize and accept your lack of attention about these matters and start listening again.

Make inquiries about any possible event

Ask your child “what happened there?” If you suspect that something wrong has taken place. Be sure that you will be getting the correct information at the right time.

Be considerate about the opinions and requirements of your child

There are times when your child would make some demand or place-specific suggestions. Do not nullify them all together at the very beginning. Tell him/her, “let me think about it.” This will offer your child the impression that you are not inconsiderate or ignorant about his/her requirement.

Wish him/her a good day

When he/she is heading for some important matter, be it a sports tournament or exams, don’t forget to bid him/her a good day. This very often energizes him/her to face the challenges ahead.

Appreciate his/her progress

When your child has done a good deed, do not forget to appreciate him/her for his/her achievement. The moment you acknowledge his/her success, he/she realizes how much you are interested in his/her progress. This gives him/her an extra boost.

Acknowledge your trust over your child

Be sure that your child trusts you and your opinion, but you have to show him/her also that you have plenty of respect for his/her opinion as well. So acknowledge your trust in him/her and let him/her feel that assurance.

Appreciate the special acts

Be it the table manners or the politeness he/she shows in talking with the family members; be appreciative towards such good acts. Share that appreciation directly with your child.

Assert that “you’re special to me.”

You need to ensure the undivided attention you provide your child so you can surely share the same with him.

Acknowledge that anyone can make mistakes, and that is a part of life

Rather than scolding your child about accidental errors, assure him/her that these matters can happen anytime. Therefore learning from the same is essential.

Appreciate the time you spend with your child

Share the fact that you prefer spending time with your child as you like discussions, sharing of feelings and emotions, etc.

Ask directly, “what do you think of this?”

You need to show that your child’s opinion has as much importance to you as your own. So you need to ask what his/her opinion is in the event you see something or listen to something.

Express your gratefulness

When your child has done a great help to you, then express your gratitude. This will enable the child to carry on his/her good deeds in the future.

Wish him/her on the Children’s Day

On Children’s Day, wish him/her and say that he/she makes you smile. This will put an instant smile on your child’s face.

Make your child more emotionally aware

You can ask your child what he/ she feels about certain events so that she can emotionally analyze the matter and come to a solution.

Express your surprise when he/she does something outstanding

Simply exclaim, “How on earth did you do that?” and see the happiness on the little face having seen your awe.

Appreciate the labor your child goes through

As your child does hard work to learn something and you see him/ her progressing, acknowledge that by saying, “I see that your hard practice is finally paying off!”

Talk to the child to open up

“Looks like you are having a hard time. Want to talk about it?” Place this kind of open-ended question to your child. Let him/her speak up.

Verdict

Talking with the parent is an essential part of the development of the child. Therefore, as parents, you need to come up with the things to say to him/her so that your child gets the boost to step forward. The options mentioned above can be excellent ways in initiating such steps.